Three things anyone who knows Pauline Daniel would agree with are: she doesn’t mince her words, she is focused and competitive, and she derives her strength from her belief in God.
Integrity and confidence are prominently displayed in her role as a Hope Torch trustee. She keeps us accountable and ensures that we stick to our vision. In addition, she’s an amazing programmer and lends her skills to many NGOs.
When asked about self-worth, her thoughts easily correlate to three principles of discovering self-worth.
She doesn’t sugarcoat her answer. And that is part of her self-worth journey.
She believes that being straight with people is the way to help build self-worth: “I don’t believe in sugarcoating because that doesn’t help people to face reality and address issues. I think it is more beneficial to people when you tell it like it is.”
Her words echo the first lesson that Hope Torch teaches all of our social workers – No pity. The kids we work with don’t need our pity. They need our faith in them.
Her advice to everyone is to see the big picture and understand the meaning behind everything they do,
“Don’t do things for the sake of doing something, or because everyone else thinks it’s the cool thing to do. Find meaning in it – it should make sense to you.”
This is the second rule that Hope Torch conveys to our social workers. In every project, program or workshop, we believe that kids need to not only know its purpose but also have a voice in choosing that purpose. Everyone of our Hidden Treasures projects reflects Pauline’s perspective.
Pauline is competitive but knows that competition often makes it hard to realize self-worth. The bad part of competition is obviously experienced when one encounters failure and associates it with not being good enough. She insists that,
Self-worth should not depend on winning. The only thing that matters is that you are better than you were before.
This is the third principle to discovering self-worth. Improvement and growth must be our only agenda, the only goal in any activity. Winning and losing are merely social metrics.
Finally, she believes that self-worth cannot be lost. Ever. Her response,
“When your Creator values you, you should value yourself,” stems from her faith and belief in being created for a purpose.
Pauline credits her faith for being able to give up her conventional job and pursue a path that helps many not-for-profit organizations. For our HT kids, as many of them are forced to begin life as marginalized citizens, we truly hope that their own pursuit of their purpose in life stems from their self-worth.
Pauline’s self-worth story will not resemble a motivational, you-can-do-it type sermon. It’s more a think-things-through, find meaning, and keep trying type of story.
We would like to know your story.
- How do you see self-acceptance, self-esteem, and self-worth?
- Where do you derive your self-worth from?
- Do you know that you can never lose your worth?
Dialogue with us. We want to hear it.